Let’s get down to it, most people say they want to lose weight or be healthier for their New Year’s resolution. If you’re like me, you don’t remember a year that that WASN’T your resolution.
This is completely selfish, but I am posting my 2018 goal reading list not only so I can stay organized, but also accountable.
Whether you are a blogger, entrepreneur, or a CEO of a company, you need to how you will be defining your brand. Without a brand, your work will be inconsistent, not memorable, and not doing your public image any favors.
Fail Fast, Fail Often.
We all get into situations (probably weekly… maybe daily) where we need to know how to handle rejection. Maybe you weren’t hired for a job, not chosen for a promotion, or had an idea shot down by your manager.
I went to the EntreLeadership 1-Day event in Chicagoland a few months ago and now they are doing a live stream of the event. Looking back on my in-person experience and the live stream, here is what I learned. I have also included some links to the books that will help you.
Have you seen What the Health on Netflix yet? While you should always do additional research after watching a documentary, they make some pretty compelling arguments about humans and how we process meat and dairy.
Like so many other times before, I have decided that I am done gaining weight. My boyfriend is out of town for 8 days and I want to make a change. We don’t live very healthy life styles, so my hope is that I can carry this through after he gets home.
Did you know that the average CEO reads 50 books a year? That comes out to almost a book a week. How many books do you read in a year?
Unless you are 100% happy with your life and you have no dreams left to pursue because you’ve already accomplished them, this book is for you. Hell, even if you are completely happy and perfect, this book is STILL for you.
There are the times where we are just starting building out our new idea and everything seems to be moving so well. We wake up with a bounce in our step and we can’t wait to get to our computer, notebook, craft table, sewing machine or other tool we are using to build our dreams.
First, I want to make it a point to say that this is where some people stop. The first couple of hurdles aren’t so tough (and actually kind of fun) to get over but then all of a sudden there is a wall. This wall isn’t just a couple feet tall, it is sky high and impossible to go around.
This is your make or break moment. Sorry, I should say that this is your FIRST make or break moment. It doesn’t matter if we are talking about a business, relationship, weight loss journey or whatever, there is always going to be make or break moments. How you get through these is not only a testament of your tenacity, but of the potential of your success.
There are a lot of different outlets you can turn to when you need motivation. What might work for someone else might not have the same effect on you. You should try different solutions to see what works best for you. Keep in mind that this could change from problem to problem or over time. If I need to put out a blog post, my source of motivation usually comes from getting as far away from my computer and noise as possible. If I need to design a logo for a client, I like to go through digital mood boards I have created and listen to movie soundtracks. Whatever works, right?
So the next time you need motivation, go through this list and see what inspires you to get back on track. If all else fails, just remember that Oprah has 24 hours in her day, and look at how much shit she gets done!
I can (and do) talk tirelessly about how important it is to set goals for everything that you want. Like I have said in my post about goal setting, if it is not written down and you have not formed a to-do list, you are seriously hurting your chances to get what you want.
When you need motivation, the first thing you should do is review these goals. If you are stuck on a certain task, your to do list will show you what else needs to be done, and maybe you can switch gears in order to get out of your current head space.
Your goals can also remind you of what you are working towards. Sometimes you just need to step back and look at the bigger picture in order to push through tough times. What is this all for? Why is it important to you? Asking yourself some intrapersonal questions about what you really want is crucial from time to time.
My favorite way to motivate myself is to listen to YouTube videos of speeches. Not only is it useful for directing my blog posts, it gets me pumped for every aspect of my life. If I have a bad day at work, I’ll put on some Tony Robbins and in no time, I am plugging away and being super productive.
Is there anything better than Morgan Freeman telling you to get shit done? Some of my favorite videos are over an hour long and I just put them on and get into the zone. The background music helps drown out the world and I can easily get sucked into whatever I am doing.
The next time you need to go workout and you really don’t want to, put this on and try to tell me that you still want to just sit around. You feel tired and don’t really feel like going to your work room? Here you go.
Not just any book. While you may like novels, in order to get motivation, you should have a couple personal development books on hand. I bought an Amazon Fire recently and I would highly recommend it or another Kindle. I just love being able to purchase a book and start reading immediately. I thought not having physical pages would be annoying, but its not as distracting as I thought.
I don’t need to tell you that there are tons of books out there that aim to develop you and take you to a new level, but sometimes sifting through all the reviews and summaries gets time consuming. You are supposed to be finding motivation, not shopping.
Through the years, I have started to accumulate quite a collection of books. Below are affiliate links to some of my recommendations for different situations you might be in. All of these are great on their own, I am merely making suggestions to help you make an easy decision.
When you need to remember what is important in business (Everyone that has a job should read this book. I’ve read it multiple times, it doesn’t take long at all): The Go-Giver, Expanded Edition: A Little Story About a Powerful Business Idea
When you need help sticking to your guns: Think Big, Act Bigger
When you think an idea is impossible: Make Unstoppable Simple. Creative Problem Solving in Life and Leadership
When you need to just go for it: The 5 Second Rule: Transform your Life, Work, and Confidence with Everyday Courage
When you need to shift your mindset: The Power of Positive Thinking
Hopefully these books have the effect on you that they had for me. I am always looking for new things to read, so if you have a book that has helped you grow, I would love it if you left it in the comments!
Most of the time when we are faced with a problem, we are determined to solve it ourselves. Especially entrepreneurs, one of the thrilling parts of life is figuring out puzzles. If you have dedicated a lot of time to getting over that wall and feel like you aren’t getting anywhere, it could amaze you how much someone else can help you.
Many people have mentors or a relationship with someone that is on a similar path as them. These people are one of the most important assets you can have. Not having to reinvent the wheel every day frees up a lot of time for you to focus on what matters. Promise me that if you do not have someone that you can talk to about your business or direction you are going in life, you will actively seek one out within the next couple of days of reading this. I cannot tell you how much stress this will take off of you.
Do you ever get to that point where the impostor syndrome is so strong you start regretting successes you have already had? I am here to tell you that EVERYONE experiences impostor syndrome, some people are just better at handling it. The next time you need a reminder of your self worth and that you are doing what you are supposed to be, talk to a mentor or a trusted friend. Ask open ended questions that prompts your friend to tell you an outside perspective of what you are good at.
Christy Wright of Business Boutique is really good at explaining why this can be so helpful. Mots of the time when we are good at something, we don’t realize that it is a unique skill. Maybe you are naturally good with crafting things or organizing. Maybe technology and computer software comes really easy to you and you can just start playing with it. These are not talents that are distributed evenly. You may think they are trivial, but a friend might tell you that they are jealous of your abilities. Taking their opinions into account can push you to where you’re trying to get by changing your mindset.
When I am in a creative slump, a walk can do wonders. Getting out of your chair and getting your blood pumping might be exactly what you need.
Focusing on something like a strenuous workout and not about checking something off your to do list is so cathartic. Doing a short high intensity workout can energize your body and mind. Lets not ignore the health benefits as well.
I suggest putting on a podcast and getting some fresh air. You never know when your best idea will come to you.
If you are looking for motivation, sometimes the LAST thing you want to do is the task that is in front of you. My style for blogging usually starts off with me writing the most pathetic posts ever. I just start typing what is on my mind and eventually gain momentum. Using that, I work all the way through the post and then quickly go to the top and redo the beginning. A lot of the time, the direction that the post started with is no where near how it ends. Going back through from the top is the best way to create a cohesive post.
If you’re an artist, sometimes just putting ink to paper or paint to canvas is the catalyst needed to create something beautiful. If you are designing your website for your new business, you might go through 5 or more different looks before finding one that works with your content. A theme might look good as a sample but you don’t really know until you see it as your own.
What I am trying to get at is that if all else fails and you have something to do, do the thing, even if you don’t feel like it. This might not be the answer you want, but could be what you needed to hear.
Everyone is different and we all can help each other with new ideas. I would love to read some comments with new strategies for when we need motivation.
Don’t give me the excuse that you are in college or you are a single mother or you don’t have enough money to follow your dreams. I heard this once when I was thinking about taking a chance that has stuck with me: You are going to have bills, whether you go after your dreams or you don’t.
Adele, Lebron James, and Anthony Robbins are all humans. If a single human has achieved it, so can you. The difference between you and them is that they spend the 24 hours of the day differently than you. They know what they want and they do whatever it takes to win.
You may look at your life and feel defeated because where you are and look at everyone around you that is doing what you want to do, but ten times better. Doesn’t that just kill you? Well, I am here to tell you it shouldn’t. That needs to motivate you and serve as a guiding light. Because of them, you can see that the path you want to take is out there.
If a single human has achieved it, so can you. You have the same 24 hours.
Think about weight loss. Do you ever look at celebrities that gained weight and then lost it and look amazing again? Maybe they had kids or quit the business for a little bit and unflattering photos are on the tabloids that you sneak a peak at before checking out at Target. Then it feels like a month later they are back on the cover promoting a product that helped them lose the weight and get their perfect body back.
Think about what they actually did to lose the weight. It wasn’t some stupid pill or a new superfood. It was their mind. They decided that they wanted to change and they are willing to do what it takes to get there. What will you decide you want and what you will do anything for?
“I’m tired, I don’t want to do it” well if you don’t do it, then do you really want your
dreams? Look back at this day one year ago. If you had one less hour of sleep 365 days ago, could you be in a different place now? Or are you sitting here right now thankful that you had that one extra hour of sleep 365 days ago?
What if you got up that day and wrote your goals down and your game plan and started working towards your dream? Maybe you started writing that first draft or ran for the first time in ages or built your website or read that book. You would look back on that day a year later and thank yourself. I couldn’t tell you how many hours of sleep I had last night but I can tell you that I woke up and went for a walk and listened to a podcast that reflects what I want in life. I came home and looked at my goals and got motivated. I went to work and stayed motivated. I went on a walk during my lunch break and listened to another podcast that kept me hungry for what I want.
Every single moment you can afford to dedicate to your goals needs to be dedicated to your goals. That is the way you will reach them and be successful. You need to think, breathe, bleed what you want in life.
Tony Robbins was born in an abusive household with a mother that married and divorced many times and he worked as a janitor to contribute to the household. He left home at 17, never to return, and didn’t go to college.
But you’ve heard of him because he used the same 24 hours as you.
Oprah Winfrey was born to a poor teenage mother and became one herself at the age of 14 but lost her infant son two weeks into his life. She was molested by her uncle, cousin and family friend, starting when she was nine years old.
But you’ve heard of her because she used the same 24 hours as you.
Christina Aguilera was only four years old when she was found with her face bloodied up because “Daddy wanted to take a nap and I made too much noise.”
But you’ve heard of her because she used the same 24 hours as you.
I could go on and on, but I think you get the point.
There has been something in the back of your mind the entire time you have been reading this. Be honest with yourself, what is it? What is that thing in your head that you so desperately want to do, but feel like you might not ever get to? Or maybe you think you will, but you just need to start.
The time is now.
We all have something we want to do and we all keep holding off. Maybe you’re waiting for Monday, or waiting for your kids to get older, or waiting for YOU to get older. I think that is complete bullshit. I hate when I hear my coworkers say “we will figure that out later.” No. We are talking about it now, so let’s make decisions now. Some event could be a year away but if its important enough that we are talking about it now, we need to start making moves now.
How many things have you wanted to get done that you put off until “later” and then it never actually got done?
You would tell yourself that you would put money aside and when you had enough, start a business or maybe you ordered pizza and promised yourself that Monday was when your diet started.
All of a sudden its a year later and you spent the small amount of money you saved on a new laptop or you’re going shopping because your pants don’t fit again.
Let’s stop that cycle right now.
Not to completely discredit myself, but this is something I am struggling with right now. I did everything I was supposed to. I wrote down a goal and benchmarks with deadlines I wanted to accomplish. I wanted to start an online store with my sports designs and by the end of the summer I wanted to have 10 designs completed and have Facebook ads running. Guess how many designs I have made.
You see, everyone runs into this from time to time. We put off long term gains for short term pleasure or, what my issue is, I have too many goals and cant focus on just one, so none of them end up getting accomplished.
Let’s work together. Let’s all vow right now to set one goal and reach for it. Make it uncomfortable but worthy. If we run into a wall and feel like we have had enough, please remember: