Fail Fast, Fail Often.
We all get into situations (probably weekly… maybe daily) where we need to know how to handle rejection. Maybe you weren’t hired for a job, not chosen for a promotion, or had an idea shot down by your manager.
Abe Lincoln lost eight major elections during his career, but is now one of the most beloved Presidents in history.
Michael Jordan didn’t make his high school varsity team, instead Leroy Smith got his spot. Have you ever heard of Leroy?
J.K. Rowling was rejected by 12 major publishing companies. She finished the first two Harry Potter books while still on welfare benefits. The dementors introduced in the third book were inspired by her mental illness.
What would happen if you went LOOKING for failure? If you failed, you technically were a success. Jia Jiang challenged himself to fail 100 days in a row to learn how to handle rejection.
A “no” is not a death sentence. A “no” is simply a redirection. It might be a small shift in direction or a 180 degree rebound. The point is that if you are worried about the “no”, your chances to receive it go WAY up.
When you get rejected, the first thing that needs to happen, you need to ask “why” because sometimes the answer to that will make sense. If you watch this TED talk, Jiang explains that he was rejected for something and when he asked why, the man gave him a very good reason and then told him another way that he could be successful in what he is wanting to do.
Rejection is a numbers game. If you ask enough people for something, someone eventually will say yes to you. Yes they will meet you for coffee, yes they will let you shadow them for a job, yes you will get the job.
Think of rejection as a weight. The first time you try to lift the weight, it is tough. The more and more you get rejected (lift the weight), it gets easier.
Find way to continuously work this muscle. Once you become immune to the pain of rejection, you become susceptible to success and taking risks that will get you far in life.
Here is your challenge:
Get rejected for the next 30 days.
Jia Jiang completed his 100 days of rejection challenge and started a movement. People around the world were inspired to get rejected and learn from it. He writes about it in his book, Rejection Proof. I definitely recommend it if you love his TED talk.